One of The Backstreet Boys’ most famous songs, “I Want It That Way,” has some confusing lyrics that have been hotly debated for some time. And now, model and internet den mother Chrissy Teigen has gotten to the bottom of it for all of us.

At the end of the song, the group sings:

I never wanna hear you say

I want it that way

’Cause I want it that way

Right now you’re thinking, “What on Earth does that mean?” And that’s OK, because you’re not alone. Teigen asked the same thing Friday.

For the rest of us at the bottom of the Twitter totem pole, those questions would have simply floated out into the ether. But when Teigen asks questions, people come with answers.

And that’s exactly what The Backstreet Boys did.

Still following?

What the boys are saying is, they don’t want to hear you wishing for bad things to happen in the relationship — for heartaches, mistakes or distance — and that’s the way they want it. 

Teigen continued the discussion with her followers:

But it seems like this mystery has been solved. And the world is safe again. Thank you, Chrissy Teigen.

For the more than 16 million Americans living with depression, antidepressants are often an option in providing some relief from their symptoms. However, as with any new medication, side effects are common. And that means for some, sex is impossible.

Antidepressants, particularly selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors, or SSRIs, have been shown to impact one sex’s drive ― with symptoms like reduced libido, delayed ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and an inability or delayed ability to reach orgasm. But there’s no definitive answer on how common those issues are for users. The results of studies vary widely, with the estimated of number of people affected ranging from 25 percent to 73 percent of those who take the drugs, according to Ash Nadkarni, associate psychiatrist at Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston.

This doesn’t mean that all hope is lost or that you should necessarily find alternative methods of mental health treatment. As with most health-related medication, knowledge is power. Below, experts break down what you need to know about antidepressants and your sex drive, and what you can possibly do about it:

Your brain might be to blame for your lack of sex drive.

Nadkarnia said the potential sexual impact of SSRIs may lie in specific chemical occurrences in the brain.

“Pathways of sexual desire involve serotonin, but also chemicals such as dopamine and norepinephrine,” she said. “Dopamine is linked to the intense passion and arousal of romantic love, while norepinephrine is associated with the heightened attention and motivation of desire. Serotonin-enhancing antidepressants blunt sexual desire by reducing the capacity of dopamine and norepinephrine, or excitatory pathways, to be activated.”

Despite serotonin’s ability to lessen sexual desire, Nadkarni noted that in some instances, the chemical can also increase desire. It really varies depending on the person and the type of depression medication one is taking. For instance, some medications, including Viibryd and Wellbutrin, have been lauded for their lack of sexual side effects.

The dip in your libido might not last.

The changes antidepressants can cause in one’s sexual desire or experience of sex aren’t always permanent. It can also be difficult to determine whether depression or antidepressants are the reason for someone’s decreased sexual drive, according to John Christman, a psychiatrist at Zucker Hillside Hospital in Glenn Oaks, New York.

“When people are depressed they tend to be less social and interactive, and of course, that can have its affects in terms of libido,” Christman said. “It’s interesting because we always warn patients before starting antidepressants that one side effect of the medication can be sexual dysfunction. However in many patients their sexual performance improves because they’re less depressed.”

Men are more likely to experience a change in their sex drive.

The sexual improvement felt by some patients beginning antidepressants isn’t necessarily the experience of all. Christman explained that sexual dysfunction is the most commonly experienced side effect of antidepressants, especially in men. Those who experience sexual dysfunction as a result of their antidepressants may consider stopping their medication, but Christman cautions against that.

“I tell most of my patients to try your best to wait it out,” he said. “If you give the medication a little bit of time, in many cases, the dysfunction will improve.”

So, what can you do about all of it? Here are a few solutions:

Be mindful of other factors that could get in the way.

Sometimes, it’s not just your medication coming into play. Nadkarni said it’s important to be aware of other possible causes of sexual side effects, including age, alcohol usage, other medications or any leftover symptoms of depression.

Chat with a physician about tweaking your medication.

There are multiple ways of working through any sexual side effects, including switching medications, incorporating an additional medication, or taking a day off from your medication. But this “drug holiday,” as Christman calls it, should only be done with the approval and supervision of your doctor.

“Wait the symptoms out and many times it does get better,” Christman said. “It’s very important to have conversations with your doctor if you’re experiencing side effects. Don’t feel embarrassed. Sexual activity is normal human behavior not to be stigmatized.”

Above all, be honest with your doctors about the issue.

Before you reconsider taking antidepressants, or attempt to stop using them if side effects arise, you should speak with your physicians who prescribed you the medication.

Those on antidepressants and experiencing a decreased sex drive also may want to consider speaking with a sex therapist. 

“I suggest joint couples or sex therapy sessions (separate from the person with depression’s personal therapy) so you can feel like you’re both being heard, and so you can work together as a team on your sex life,” sex therapist Vanessa Marin said. “The tricky thing about these situations is that you have to make the space for both of your experiences. It’s understandable for the person with depression to be disinterested in sex, and it’s understandable for the partner to still want sex. You may have to be patient for a while, and you may have to get creative about other ways to experience intimacy and sexual satisfaction.“

How you choose to address any side effects that might arise from taking a depression medication remains up to you. And keep in mind that not every person will have the same experience.

“If you do have the side effects sometimes with time it will go away, and if it still doesn’t go away there are things you can do,” Christman said. “Not everybody gets the side effects, and you should not let the sexual side effects be a stumbling block in seeking treatment. It’s something to be discussed with your doctor, and it’s something you can treat together.”

Back in her single days, writer Zara Barrie almost always threw back what she called a “personality drink” prior to a first date. Thanks to the drink or two, conversation on her dates flowed as freely as a just-opened bottle of pinot. But there was a clear downside, too.

“Drinking gives me a false sense of connection with a person,” Barie told HuffPost. “If I’ve had two glasses of Champagne I can feel chemistry with anyone.” 

Barrie, a senior writer at Elite Daily, eventually gave sober dating a shot. It sharpened her dating spidey sense in pretty short order, and led to her meeting her fiancée, a woman Barrie loves “without any Champagne goggles” on. 

“Looking back, I realize that I drank so damn much in my early 20s because I was hanging out with people I didn’t have anything in common with. Booze masked that ugly reality,” she said. “I told myself I needed a drink for so long that I believed it with every fiber of my being.”

Barrie’s story probably sounds all too familiar if you’re currently single. A 2014 survey from Plenty of Fish found that 36.4 percent of singles drink before going out, and 48.9 percent drink during the date, averaging two or three drinks during the course of an evening.

The same survey found that 19.1 percent of guys have gotten drunk on a first date, and so have 16.8 percent of women.

It’s not entirely surprising that modern dating and drinking are so thoroughly linked. Most of us meet on apps, and the prospect of getting to know someone based on a short bio and four or five pics can be anxiety-provoking. Many people think drinking makes them a chiller version of themselves ― someone who’s more similar to the person in their dating profiles.

That’s particularly motivating for women who pregame, said Patricia O’Gorman, a New York City-based psychologist and the author of The Girly Thoughts 10-Day Detox Plan: The Resilient Woman’s Guide To Saying ‘No’ To Negative Self-Talk And ‘Yes’ To Personal Power.

“Women internalize society standards of perfection and then berate themselves if they do not fulfill them,” O’Gorman said. “With dating, a woman often feels obligated to be more relaxed than she is, even more sexual than she feels comfortable with, and these pressures can encourage her to drink before a date to achieve this.”

The problem? The line between “cool girl who can handle her liquor” and slightly hot mess becomes more blurred the more dependent you become on drinking, said Caitlin Cecil, a wellness coach in Houston who has written about sober dating. 

“I suffer from anxiety and sometimes the ‘what ifs’ before a date would be overwhelming,” Cecil said. “Drinking a bit before a date made me a little looser and I felt like I would be more fun to engage with.” 

Eventually, Cecil realized that pre-date jitters were bound to occur, no matter how many drinks she had.

“Now I know that nervousness is going to happen whether I am sober, drunk or buzzed, but it took a while for me to accept that sober, natural Caitlin is just as fun and exciting as the Caitlin I was after a drink or two,” she said. “These days, I’m able to go on dates and rely on good conversation, an actual connection, and I don’t have to worry about doing something stupid from drinking.” 

The solution isn’t necessarily outright abstinence. It’s just knowing that you’ll be a more discerning dater and choose better partners if you’re bringing a more sober version of yourself to the table, said O’Gorman

“If you want someone to accept you, then you need to figure out how to relax yourself enough to begin to reveal who you are,” she said. “And you’ll also get to see how your potential partner deals with the unexpected. Is he or she comfortable with you doing what you want in such a specific way? Do you even want a second date with this person?”

If you’re lost without a drink in your hand, order a soda with a dash of bitters, which contain relatively low amounts of alcohol. Then, let your sharper, wittier self lead the date with the confidence that you’re dating with a clear mind.

If you start craving a drink, take that nervous energy and focus it on your date: Pre-program some of those New York Times “The 36 Questions That Lead to Love” prompts into your head. Get down to the nitty-gritty and ask your date about their passions, work-life balance and thoughts on having kids.

“Turning the focus on the other person and setting an intention to listen to what they have to say, will set you free from your own prison of insecurity and stop those swirling self-obsessed thoughts,” Barrie said. “Before you know it, you’ll be deep into an authentic conversation and will have (most likely) forgotten all about the drink you never ordered.”

Bikini waxes are downright painful. 

And it’s understandable, considering that hair is literally being ripped from your most intimate, delicate skin. And if you’re one of the brave souls who does your own bikini wax, you know the anxiety that comes with the fear of pulling off the strips incorrectly. Yow.

Love them or hate them, waxes can lead to some pretty uncomfortable moments for both the waxer and the waxee. Let’s start with the waxers.

Kristen Whiting, owner of Silk Body Waxing Studio in Philadelphia, recalled a few uncomfortable moments she has experienced at work.

“I’ve been kneed in the boob before and farted in my face,” she said. “Yeah, that was nasty.”

Jenne’ Doyle, esthetician and co-founder of Philadelphia’s Heads & Tails beauty boutique, shared one particularly funny story with HuffPost. It involved a strip of hair-covered wax flying through the air during an appointment with a first-time client. Doyle’s salon uses essential oils to treat the skin, which contributed to this incident:

“So I pull and all of a sudden my whole life turns into slow motion as I watch the strip sail through the air and land directly on her face. I was like, ‘Oh my goodness!’ Thankfully, she was very understanding of the fact that these things happen. ... This is going to wake me up at 3 o’clock in the morning. I know I’m going to see this replay in my head again and again. It was hard wax, just to be fair. It wasn’t sticky, but still, the point is, your pubes just landed on your face and that’s usually not OK.” 

It could be argued that the waxees have a far more uncomfortable experience than the waxers, which Twitter users have so hilariously pointed out. Social media maven Chrissy Teigen even once pondered whether she could receive a bikini wax after an epidural. That’s how painful those things can be.

Here are some of the funniest thoughts about the pain and horror involved with bikini waxes: 

I was so thrilled to be asked to shoot the cover of Virgin Magazine, and even more thrilled to hear they were keen to honour my request for no airbrushing of my face or body. This means a lot and is a desperately important stance to take in honour of the tens of millions of women (at least) who struggle so much with their self-image, due to decades of impossibly demanding body standards being inflicted upon us, and false imagery being used to subliminally manipulate us into a feeling of (needless) disappointment in ourselves. 

It’s something I’ve been asking for since my career began 10 years ago. I only sometimes get my way, but I will never stop campaigning for it for these three reasons:

1) It is done in the name of “fantasy”. What message does it send to women (and men) everywhere, that a “fantasy” female is normally only ever one who is impossibly long, and thin, with flawless (and normally lightened) skin, with a thin face, a small nose, large lips, big eyes, and no wrinkles ever, at any age. Why can’t the fantasy ever have some back fat? Or be in a wheelchair? Why can it never be unsymmetrical? Why can it never show the dignified and important lines of a life lived and survived? What is that one, constant, “flawless,” doll like fantasy telling all normal women everywhere? That we are not to be fantasized about? We are excluded from the desirable group? We are the rejected? We didn’t make the cut?

2) The dishonesty of it. There is no mention of alteration, so we are left with the manipulative subliminal messaging that someone else achieved the forever pre-pubescent “fantasy” but we can’t. We have failed. Her breasts have been plumped, her legs lengthened, her skin smoothed. But all in secret. It’s so dangerous to put these images into the world of women who themselves often do not even meet the requirements, without the help of a computer, and say nothing of it. There should either be a detailed declaration in small print of the features altered, or we should see the original image and celebrate the humanity and reality of the subject and her photographer. Who, frankly, may as well not bloody be there if a computer is doing all the work. Where is the dignity in it? For anyone involved? 

3) It is offensive TO ME. To be airbrushed, which is never even discussed with you beforehand, is not a kind act. It’s a passive aggressive attack. To see a simulation of myself, a “flawless” version that I myself could never reach in reality, does not make me feel flattered. It explicitly informs me that I was not good enough on that day. Or on any day. What I am, must be covered up, altered and hidden from sight, or else people shall find me harder to look at. When magazines have in the past altered my ethnic nose to look more caucusian and button like, or lightened my skin… I feel racially offended. When I see that my cellulite and stretch marks that I spend my every day with have been deleted, it makes me feel bad about myself when I see them in the mirror. A feeling I didn’t want or need, which I then have to fight and dismiss in the name of feminism and basic bloody humanity. I am human. I have lived. I have been through a lot, and some of those things have marked me, and I do not feel shame about those things, I do not think someone else has the right to make me feel I should. 

Airbrushing is not supposed to be used for anything other than removing a stain on a wall behind the model, or maybe even a single hair out of place that ruins the shot. To use it to alter a face and body, to sell a lie to women, which will more often than not hurt the way in which they see themselves, and could well lead to a possibly unhealthy lifestyle in order to achieve the prototype you made with your computer… is a crime against an entire gender. It’s unacceptable. And it has to stop. “Perfect” imagery in magazines hurt me as a teenager, and made sure I never felt good enough. I don’t want to be a part of that for someone else. 

If I look tired/wrinkled, or chubby, then I look tired/wrinkled or chubby. Let my worth as a grown woman who has many parts to my existence live without shame for this. If these pictures that will come out of me on this cover repulse you, then what does that say about you? Because it says absolutely nothing about me. 

I had a fabulous time shooting for Virgin, with a talented team of artists, and I look forward to seeing what we made together. 

This blog also appears on Jameela’s personal blog, and can be read here

Marti Hutchinson, 29, had only 10 minutes to grab whatever she could and evacuate her childhood home with her brother and boyfriend on May 3. 

A volcanic vent had cracked open on her street and began spewing toxic gas and lava in the rural Leilani Estates subdivision of Hawaii’s Big Island, which prompted the Civil Defense Agency to evacuate the neighborhood immediately. It was the first of what would be 24 fissures (and counting) to break open with explosive lava and claim 87 homes.

As officials yelled through loudspeakers for residents to evacuate, Hutchinson grabbed her dogs, important documents, a few clothes and an urn with her father’s ashes. She looked desperately for her cats, but she knew they were scared by all the commotion. 

“There were [Civil Defense] trucks in the driveway with their hands on the horns nonstop blaring. It was really panicky,” Hutchinson said. “I had no clue what to grab. I was completely at a loss.”

As Hutchinson and her group drove away down Mohala Street where she’s lived nearly all her life, she said she could see lava “spraying up in the air” in the rearview mirror. She inherited her home nine years ago after her father, who built it, died. She couldn’t stop thinking of the photos of him that she left behind.

Once they were out of the disaster zone, Hutchinson’s group pulled over to the side of the road to take a breath. They were unsure of what to do next.

“It is very surreal,” Hutchinson said. “It’s really hard to put a feeling to it, except for feeling very lost.”

She added: “It feels really hard to know that you have nowhere to go and nothing to your name.”

Life has changed dramatically for residents living in Leilani Estates and those who live on the slopes of Kilauea volcano. 

About 2,500 people have been evacuated from their homes since May 3. They have been forced to stay with friends or family, or at one of three shelters in the area. An estimated 409 evacuees are registered in the shelters, though only 134 have a roof over their head. The rest, about 275 people, have set up tents next to the shelters or are sleeping in their cars.

If lava hasn’t claimed their homes already, they are monitoring the flows to see if it will.

Four days after she evacuated, Hutchinson, who is now staying with her boyfriend’s family, was allowed to go back home and retrieve anything else she needed, including the photos of her dad.

When she returned to her house, she could hear explosions from the fissures on the next street over. The ground shook as she packed her things. She found fresh cracks around her property, some two feet wide. She also found her cats.

“It was nerve-wracking because we could hear it nonstop,” Hutchinson said of the eruptions. “Big loud booms like bombs were going off in the backyard. ... The ground was shaking. ... It was like being in the middle of a war zone.”

Hutchinson’s house remained standing for three weeks, giving her hope that it would be spared from the lava. On May 25, the flow advanced and her home was gone.

She recently visited the area where Mohala Street once stood ― where she had grown up and where she had walked up and down for years. She couldn’t believe what she saw.

“I couldn’t really tell where my house was,” she told HuffPost. “It looked like an expansive wasteland. At this point, it doesn’t really seem like Earth.”

An estimation of Marti Hutchinson’s property before the eruptions:

Hutchinson’s home, circled in red in the post below, after May 25:

Home In The Disaster Zone

Fissures in the volcano’s east rift zone, which includes parts of the Puna district, continue to open up and disgorge lava, sometimes with no warning. Some cracks spew fountains of lava hundreds of feet into the air, while other flows have joined into one massive lava river. 

Officials continue to call evacuations as needed, with the latest evacuations ordered suddenly last week in a neighborhood known as Kapoho. On Sunday, Hawaii Civil Defense said that a lava flow cut off a road, trapping at least 12 people there with no electricity or water.

Like Hutchinson, some residents have chosen to stay in areas just outside the disaster zone in order to be near their community and, as Hutchinson had done, hold onto hope that their homes might be spared.

“For me, I’m camping out as long as my house is standing. I’m not leaving,” April Buxton, a Leilani Estates evacuee who is camping outside the Pahoa Community Center shelter, told Hawaii Public Radio late last month. 

“I could rent some place in Waimea [in the northern part of the island],” she added. “But I wanna be with my community and doing what I can to help out but I also want to be close so when it’s time to go home, I can get back home.”

For the past few weeks, Hutchinson has been monitoring the volcanic activity and helping her neighbors, many of whom she’s known since kindergarten. She recently had to tell one of her friends that their home had been taken out by the lava, too.

The whole experience has changed the way Hutchinson sees her childhood and the lush and manicured gardens of Leilani Estates. Now, it’s just a memory that’s completely out of reach.

“It does put a new light on things, on how precious memories are,” she said.

Chaos Is The New Normal

While the current eruptions are threatening only a relatively small part of the island, Hawaii residents have pooled their resources to support those affected.

The U.S. Geological Survey, Civil Defense, National Guard, fire and police departments. and volunteers who just want to help are working around the clock to find new fissures, keep residents safe and update everyone on whether their properties are still there.

In a Sunday morning update, the Civil Defense Agency said that first responders were actively doing search-and-rescue missions in neighborhoods isolated by lava, including Kapoho and Vacationland.

This kind of chaos is the new normal for locals living near the east rift zone on Kilauea volcano’s gentle slopes, and scientists aren’t quite sure when the eruptions will end.

To create a sense of stability, residents have formed a community organization headquartered near the affected areas called the Pu’uhonua o Puna. Pu’uhonua, a Hawaiian phrase, roughly translates to “a place of refuge.”

There, donations of food, water, clothes and respirators for the toxic fumes are dropped off by volunteers and picked up by evacuees. People also gather there to find more information on whether their homes are still standing or advice on what to do next.

Now, when Hutchinson talks about her hometown in Leilani Estates, she speaks of it like a faraway memory, even though she was peacefully living with her dogs, cats and fruit trees just over a month ago.

In the weeks following the eruptions, Hutchinson says she’s heard people criticizing her and others for choosing to live atop an active volcano. She says those people don’t understand the Big Island the way its residents do.

“We grew up with the lava, we understand it’s part of our world,” she said. “That doesn’t make it any easier when it shows up in your backyard.”

The comeback will have to wait.

Serena Williams withdrew from the French Open Monday with a pectoral injury, shortly before she was to play her round-of-16 match against Maria Sharapova.

“I unfortunately [have] been having some issues with my pec muscle,” she said at a press conference. “ ... Right now I can’t actually serve, so it’s kinda hard to play when I can’t physically serve.” She said the issue emerged in her previous singles match and she would have an MRI on Tuesday in Paris.

The match against Sharapova had extra intrigue because the two players had not faced each other since Sharapova served a 15-month doping ban.

Williams, a 23-time Grand Slam champion, was playing in her first Grand Slam since she won the Australian Open in early 2017 while pregnant. She gave birth to daughter Alexis Olympia in September and had mounted a comeback in what she called her “Wakanda-inspired catsuit” at Roland-Garros.

She dedicated the outfit, designed to prevent blood clots, to mothers who had difficult pregnancies. She endured near-deadly complications after her delivery.

Williams had some parting words for followers online: “You always live to fight for another chance. I’ve done a lot of fighting and this is just the beginning. ” 

 Williams is on the board of advisers to Oath, HuffPost’s parent company.

After an international scramble to salvage the briefly canceled summit between the U.S. and North Korea, it appears President Donald Trump and North Korean leader Kim Jong Un are on track to meet in Singapore next week for their historic tête-à-tête.

But the delicate diplomatic dance between the two nations is far from over. The latest question facing U.S. officials: Who will pay for Kim’s hotel room?

As The New York Times noted on Sunday, Pyongyang has been known to compel other governments or organizations to foot the bill when its officials travel abroad.

During the recent Winter Olympics in Pyeongchang, for instance, the South Korean government earmarked about $2.6 million to cover the travel expenses of members of the North’s visiting delegation, including a cheering squad, an orchestra and an art troupe, and the International Olympic Committee bankrolled the 22 athletes who represented North Korea at the games.  

“These norms were laid in the early 2000s, when Seoul’s so-called sunshine policy took off,” Sung-Yoon Lee, a Korea expert at Tufts University, told The Washington Post last week, referring to a rapprochement policy adopted by South Korea. “North Korea can build nukes and ICBMs, but claim they are too poor to pay for foreign travel costs.”

The Post, citing two individuals familiar with talks about logistics for the summit, reported that “the prideful but cash-poor pariah state” was now looking for an outsider to pay for Kim and his entourage’s stay at the five-star Fullerton Hotel in Singapore, which the paper said is the North Korean delegation’s “preferred lodging” for next week’s meeting. A presidential suite at the five-star hotel costs more than $6,000 per night, and a regular room costs upward of $220. 

It’s unclear just who will pick up the tab, however ― though there appears to be no shortage of willing sponsors.  

The U.S. is “open to covering the costs,” the Post wrote, citing the two individuals, though such a payment would require a sanctions waiver and could cause Pyongyang to lose face. 

U.S. officials are thus reportedly mulling whether to ask host nation Singapore to bear some of the costs ― a suggestion that the small but wealthy city-state apparently would be happy to comply with. 

Ng Eng Hen, Singapore’s defense minister, said on Saturday that the country was willing to pay for some of North Korea’s expenses, though he did not specify how much Singapore was willing to spend or whether it was at Washington’s urging. 

“It is a cost that we’re willing to bear to play a small part in this historic meeting,” Ng said without elaboration, according to Reuters. 

The State Department denied the reports. 

“We are not paying for the DPRK (North Korea) delegation and we are not asking others to do so,” Heather Nauert, the department’s acting undersecretary for public diplomacy and public affairs, said in a statement.

The International Campaign to Abolish Nuclear Weapons, an anti-nuclear-weapon organization, has also expressed willingness to cover North Korea’s summit-related expenses, saying over the weekend that it would gladly chip in part of the more than $1 million cash award from its 2017 Nobel Peace Prize to contribute to the landmark event.

“Our movement is committed to the abolition of nuclear weapons, and we recognize that this historic summit is a once-in-a-generation opportunity to work for peace and nuclear disarmament,” ICAN official Akira Kawasaki said in a statement, according to USA Today. “The Nobel Peace Prize included a cash prize, and we are offering funds from the prize to cover the costs for the summit in order to support peace in the Korean Peninsula and a nuclear-weapon-free world.”

In addition to Kim’s hotel room and other budget matters, U.S. and North Korean officials have many logistical details to hammer out before next week’s summit, reported the Times,

“The two sides will be negotiating everything from the site of the meeting to which leader sits where at the table, who is allowed in the room with them, the number of meals and breaks, what to use in a toast between the two leaders (given that Mr. Trump does not drink alcohol) [and] what gifts could be exchanged,” among other issues, the paper wrote.

Williams said director Gary Ross gave him and Rihanna a lot of creative freedom to build Nine Ball’s style as they imagined it.

“We wanted this girl to be cool, chill, and very minimal. She would wear the same things over and over again. But I think the one thing she probably cared about the most was her hair,” he told Refinery29. “When people have locs, it’s kind of like their crown. It’s their pride and joy. It’s like a flower ... you gotta nourish it and watch it grow. Hair played a really big part in who Nine Ball came to be.”

Williams added that Rihanna loved wearing the locs during filming (except the fact that it “feels like you have a fucking Toyota on your head”).

“You know she’s from Barbados ― she knows what to do with dreadlocks. It probably was the easiest style she’s ever had, since she got to be free and cool and see herself differently,” he said.

“She’s a huge pop star, and then we kind of stripped her down and gave her locs that we didn’t make super, super pretty,” Williams continued. “She made them glamorous when she wanted, and then super casual when she wanted. I thought it was cool to see her locs own the night whenever she went out.”

Never fear, Williams added, we will be seeing locs on Rihanna at some point in the future: “You will be seeing her with locs again, for sure. I don’t know when, but it will happen.”

Head over to Refinery29 to read the full interview. 

When you next shop in H&M you’ll want to pick up a size smaller than usual as the brand has conceded to customer demand and increased the measurements of its items.

An H&M spokesperson told HuffPost UK: “Following customer feedback, we are taking the steps to change our womenswear measurements to be in line with UK sizing, for example the previous measurements and fit of a size 12 will now be the measurements of a size 10”. 

The Swedish high street store was prompted to review its sizing after feedback from customers including Rebecca Parker, who wrote an open letter to the brand after struggling to get into a pair of size 14 jeans, despite wearing a size 14 in other high street stores. 

Parker has told HuffPost UK she views the sizing change as “a small victory that I think will have such a great impact”. 

She previously wrote to H&M: “The more I thought about it, and those jeans, I realised it wasn’t my failure that prevented me from pulling on a pair of trousers, but yours.

“I am very proud of my body. It has taken a long time but I am thoroughly content with my large hips, squishy thighs and little tum, thank you very much. When I tried on your jeans I was annoyed, hot and frustrated. The pair of jeans clearly were not made for a woman who is a size 14. Why is that?”

The discrepancy was due to a difference of opinion between H&M and the rest of the high street about how European clothing sizes translate to UK ones. So while in the majority of shops a European size 40 would be labelled a UK size 12, in H&M it would be labelled a size 14. 

H&M has already started rolling out the new labels to bring their sizes in line with other high street shops in the UK, but it will take some time for all the stock to get the updated labels. 

“This will be a gradual process and we cannot confirm when this will be 100% complete,” the spokesperson said. “The new sizing is in effect already in our stores and shortly will be online, we aim to make this transition as smooth as possible for the customer and we urge customers to try on garments and check the measurements for guidance.”

In practice this means that an item that would have previously been labelled as size 12, will now be labelled size 10, and an item that was previously labelled a 20 will now be an 18. The brand will still be going up to a size 20 in its mainline and a size 36 in its plus-size range, but these will measure larger than they previously did.

Philippines President Rodrigo Duterte asked a woman to kiss him on the lips while the two were on stage at an event in Seoul, South Korea, on Sunday. 

Duterte, 73, was in South Korea for an official visit to the country organized by the Overseas Filipino Workers’ organization. According to Reuters, there were over 3,000 people in the crowd, most of them Filipino workers living in South Korea. 

During the event, two women were called up to the stage to receive a book from the Filipino president. Both were visibly excited to meet Duterte and receive the gifts. As the two shook Duterte’s hand they brought it up to their foreheads in a sign of excitement and gratitude.

As they went to exit the stage, Duterte called them back and gave one of the women a hug and peck on the cheek. The Filipino president then gestured to the second woman ― later identified as Bea Kim ― to kiss him on the lips, and the crowd responded with applause and laughter. 

“Are you single? You’re not separated from [your husband]? But you can tell him that this is just a joke?” Duterte asked Kim, according to Filipino news outlet Rappler.com. 

Kim squealed and put her hands in front of her face while looking nervous, but eventually acquiesced and gave Duterte a quick kiss on the lips. 

“Don’t take it seriously. It’s just for fun, a gimmick,” Duterte, who has a longtime partner and four children, told the crowd after the kiss. The Filipino president is well-known for past sexist and controversial remarks including jokes about rape and violence against women. 

Kim, who has lived in Seoul for seven years, is married to a South Korean man and has two children. She told the government-run Philippine News Agency that meeting Duterte was a “once in a lifetime” experience.

“The kiss doesn’t mean anything except to entertain and make other Filipinos in the gathering happy. I assure you, for me and even the President, there was no malice in the kiss,” she said, according to Newsweek. 

Many people, including a number of women’s activists, were not happy with the public kiss from such a powerful figure. 

“It was a despicable display of sexism and grave abuse of authority. President Duterte acted like a feudal king who thinks that being the President is an entitlement to do anything that he pleases,” senator Risa Hontiveros said in a Monday statement.

“It was not a meeting of two consenting individuals on equal terms,” she added. “Uneven power relations were clearly at play. And President Duterte took advantage of that severe power disparity.” 

Joms Salvador, secretary general of Filipino women’s rights organization Gabriela, denounced the kiss as the “disgusting theatrics of a misogynist President who feels entitled to demean, humiliate or disrespect women according to his whim.”

“It is unfortunate that the woman found it her obligation to publicly defend the act as ‘no malice,’ when it is the President who is duty-bound to explain not only because it was upon his prodding but he is bound, as a public official, by rules of ethics to explain his unruly conduct,” Salvador wrote in a Monday statement.  

Apple has unveiled iOS 12 for iPhone and iPad and this year the focus is on helping you use your iPhone less as well as adding some fun new features for the iPhone X.

Unveiled at its annual WWDC 2018 developers conference, the new operating system includes a brand-new app called Screen Time designed to show you the apps you’re using too much and help you cut down.

Apple also revealed that it had drastically improved the performance of older iPhones, giving hope to anyone who has to wait 5 minutes for an app to open on their iPhone 5.

Finally as a fun finale, the tech giant revealed a new personalised Animoji called Memoji. These animated emoji characters can be completely customised from hair colour to accessories such as hats and glasses.

To cut through the noise, here are the biggest new features that Apple has just announced for your iPhone or iPad.

Screen Time + Do Not Disturb

iOS 12 features a brand-new app called Screen Time that has been designed to help you understand how much you use certain apps. It’ll show you how often you use apps, how many notifications you usually get from them and even let you set limits on how much you can use them. It’ll even suggest apps that it thinks you might be using too much and recommend ways to cut down.

The Screen Time app collates all the data from your different devices including your iPad so it’ll give you a clearer picture of how much you’re using them. Parents can also use Screen Time to help manage the time their kids spend on the gadgets and can even set digital curfews using the app.

Apple has updated Do Not Disturb to now work better during bedtime. It’ll show a minimalist lock screen, it won’t light up when you get a notification and yes, your alarm will still go off.

Older iPhones just got faster

Apple is drastically increasing the performance of older iPhones with iOS 12. According to the company you could see apps load twice as fast while the camera will reportedly open 70% faster and even the keyboard will feel quicker.

Memoji

Taking a cue from the Samsung Galaxy S9, Apple unveiled its very own personalised emoji called Memoji. Using hundreds of different customisation options you can create your own emoji and then incorporate it into Messages or even replace your own face with it and record video. The feature is sadly exclusive to the iPhone X as it requires the TrueDepth camera.

Siri Shortcuts

Taking on the likes of IFTTT, Apple’s brand-new Shortcuts app lets you create custom actions that can then be activated by your voice. Say for example you’re heading home, you can create a shortcut that turns on the heating at home, sets a map destination for your house and even messages your family to say you’re heading back. You then set the shortcut phrase as ‘I’m heading home’. Once you say that to Siri it will automatically set everything in motion.

Group FaceTime

You can now FaceTime up to 32 people at the same time simultaneously. To help initiate some form of crowd control, FaceTime automatically recognises when someone’s talking and makes their screen bigger, when they stop it shrinks back down again.

Augmented Reality

Rather than sticking with the crowd, Apple thinks augmented reality is going to be the future of immersive entertainment, not virtual reality.

In keeping with this Apple announced an entirely new file type specifically designed for augmented reality. Sounds dull but think of it like a new addition to photos, videos and GIFs. Now you’ll be able to create 3D objects and message them directly to friends who can then instantly place them in the real world using their camera, just as you would a picture.

Camila Cabello’s insanely catchy song “Havana” just broke another record.

The single, which has more than 888 million streams, is now Spotify’s most-streamed song of all time by a solo female artist, Billboard reported on Friday. The Cuban-American singer is the first solo Latina artist to hold the record.

Previously, the distinction was held by Sia’s “Cheap Thrills.”

The new record is just the latest milestone for Cabello. In January, her album became the first debut by a woman to hit No. 1 on Billboard’s 200 albums chart in three years. The same month, “Havana” also hit seven weeks at the top of Billboard’s Pop Songs radio airplay chart, which was the longest run for a solo female artist in a lead role since by Taylor Swift’s “I Knew You Were Trouble” in 2013.

But apparently not everyone expected the song to be a smash. In January ― when the song had been at No. 2 on the Billboard Hot 100 for 21 weeks, according to Complex ― the song’s producer Frank Dukes tweeted that the song had plenty of doubters early on.

“It’s just amazing to see that people have connected to it so much,” she said on the Billboard Chart Beat podcast. “When we were making the song, even though it was really special to me, I don’t think anyone expected for this to happen.”

Britain’s youngest female terror plotter has been found guilty of preparing an attack on London with the first all-woman Islamic State cell.

Safaa Boular, now 18, secretly discussed the murderous plans with her sister and mother, using coded language which had an Alice in Wonderland tea party theme.

But instead of cucumber sandwiches and cakes, her sister Rizlaine, 22, bought a large knife to Westminster in April last year.

Boular first began planning a grenade and gun attack on the British Museum when she was thwarted from joining her husband, who was a member of ISIS in Syria.

She passed the baton to her sibling after she was arrested and remanded in custody for trying to travel to the war zone.

Following an Old Bailey trial, she was found guilty of preparing acts of terrorism abroad and in the UK.

Boular made no reaction in the dock as she was found guilty on Monday by a jury after two days of deliberations.

Judge Mark Dennis QC put off sentencing for around six weeks for a report to be compiled.

Boular is the youngest female to be charged with planning an ISIS attack in the UK. Her fellow plotters admitted their roles before the trial and they will be sentenced at a later date.

The women were snared in a “pro-active” investigation involving surveillance by counter-terrorism police and MI5 agents posing online as IS operatives.

Counter-terrorism chief Dean Haydon, of Scotland Yard, said the case demonstrated a worrying rise in youngsters being arrested for terrorism.

The court heard how Boular was just 16 when she was wooed online by Coventry-born Isis fighter Naweed Hussain, 32.

The couple got married in an online ceremony and talked of donning his-and-hers suicide belts to achieve martyrdom together.

Police uncovered Boular’s plans to join him following an airport stop in August 2016 and confiscated her passport.

While on bail, Boular turned her attention to an attack on the British Museum, encouraged by Hussain in “lovey-dovey” messages.

Boular also scoped out the MI6 headquarters near her home, and took a selfie in front of the building, the court heard.

Hussain was lured into revealing his intentions to British secret service agents posing as ISIS supporters online, before he was killed in a drone strike.

When an agent pretending to be his commander informed Boular of his death on April 4 last year, she was wracked by grief and resolved to join him.

She revealed to the undercover officer that Hussain had talked about attacking the British Museum with a “tokarev” Russian-made pistol and “pineapples” – code for grenades.

On being remanded in custody over her attempt to travel to Syria, Boular persuaded fellow Isis supporter Rizlaine Boular to take up the baton.

In coded telephone calls involving their mother Mina Dich, 44, the sisters discussed a traditional English tea party with an Alice in Wonderland theme.

Rizlaine Boular said she knew “a few recipes for some amazing cakes” for a “proper like English tea party kind of thing”.

Safaa Boular suggested a “Alice in Wonderland theme” telling her sister: “You can be the Mad Hatter ’cause your hair’s crazy.”

Mother-of-four Dich responded: “That will be fun.”

Rizlaine Boular then set about reconnaissance around the Palace of Westminster, and bought knives and a rucksack from Sainsbury’s.

She was accompanied by Dich, unaware that they were under surveillance by counter-terrorism police.

Rizlaine Boular shared her plans with her friend Khawla Barghouthi, 21, and even practised a knife attack at her home in Willesden, north west London.

She was shot when armed police moved in to arrest the gang but went on to make a full recovery.

Safaa Boular, who lived at home in the “dysfunctional” family, claimed she had been groomed by Hussain, who she met online through a female Isis recruiter in the wake of the Paris terror attacks.

She wanted to get married and live peacefully in Raqqa, where women were not called “umbrella” or “post box” for wearing Islamic dress, she said.

Three times, she said Hussain urged her to attack the UK – over Christmas 2016, Valentine’s Day and around her birthday in March last year – but she rebuffed him.

Boular, who viewed gory beheadings and chatted about killing US President Barack Obama, told jurors: “Nothing online is real.”

In the year since she had been in custody, she said she had changed and now opts to wear western clothes rather than a burka.

Rizlaine Boular, and Dich, from Vauxhall, south London, pleaded guilty to preparing acts of terrorism and Barghouthi admitted failing to alert authorities.

Haydon, Senior National Coordinator for Counter Terrorism, said: “This was without doubt a major investigation, a proactive investigation. This involved a family with murderous intent, the first all-female terrorist plot in the UK connected to Daesh.

“It’s difficult to say if we will see more females. We have seen young children involved in martyrdom attacks. We have seen Daesh using young children.

“Here in the UK, we have seen an increase in young people, teenagers, getting involved.

“Arrests of youngsters have increased over the last 12 months and clearly that is a concern for us.”

He described Safaa Boular as a “confident, articulate, intelligent and a relatively mature 18-year-old” who had been “quite devious” in the way she hid her plans

He added: “As a family unit they are pretty dysfunctional. On the evidence we can see they had access to a vast amount of extremist material.”